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Cigarettes, Shame and Self CompassionAugust 10, 2017

I loved and hated those little fuckers, felt equal parts freed and imprisoned by them. It’s been almost 32 months since my last cigarette. I still sometimes crave one on those days when life feels too big, too busy, too stressful or on those days when I feel like I’m just holding my shit together. […]

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Attachment Deficits and Emotional HungerAugust 5, 2017

It can only be described as heart hunger. Like when your belly is hungry for food it aches until it gets fed. That’s what it feels like. It aches in a whole body kind of way. It’s hungry for food to quelch the deep heart and belly ache that’s been there all along. “Feed me” […]

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Feeling It vs. Falling InJune 23, 2017

I was at my therapist the other day and I asked, “If I’m feeling blue, how do I know just to let myself feel it and when I should do something to try to make myself feel better and pick myself up?” I’m not someone who has a hard time feeling things now, generally speaking, […]

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Gaslighting and the BodyApril 4, 2017

“Gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality. It works much better than you may think. Anyone is susceptible to gaslighting, and it is a common technique of abusers, dictators, narcissists, and cult leaders. It is done slowly, so the victim […]

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Property Lines and Self-CareJune 25, 2016

An essential ingredient to any self care strategy is understanding how to set healthy boundaries.  Without an ability to determine what a healthy boundary is for us in specific situations with specific people, we walk around the world not feeling very safe or sure of our assessment of the world around us.  If we aren’t […]

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Why sitting makes us more anxiousApril 8, 2016

It is true.  Sitting for long periods of the day makes people more anxious.  Sort of a no brainer.  Some people might tie it into simple things like over work, under exercise or stress from work etc etc.  But there’s something much more specific going on that ties into the nervous system regulation and trauma […]

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Should We Idealize Releasing?March 30, 2016

These days, the language around release pervades the movement and healing world.  When the use of language becomes trendy, I think it’s wise to step back and ask ourselves what we really mean when we say release? The definition of release is:  “allow or enable to escape from confinement; set free.”  If we focus on […]

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Letting Go of the Rope to HealMarch 22, 2016

There are crucial moments in our lives when someone says just the right thing at the right time.  It could be a single sentence but it is a sentence that hits us viscerally and every cell in our body knows it is the TRUTH and could save us from getting drowned in something that’s hard […]

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